Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or married anxious attachment can wreak havoc on your peace of mind.
Marriage might be a really big sore spot for you because you feel like you’re never going to get the love you want OR you’re deathly afraid of losing the love you have.
You might even flip flop between the two dependent upon whether or not you’re in a relationship.
You, my friend, might have anxious attachment and this could be the reason you’re never satisfied in love.
Signs of anxious attachment:
⭐️ Thinking about your mate, difficulty concentrating on other things
⭐️ Remembering only their good qualities
⭐️ Putting them on a pedestal
⭐️ An anxious feeling that only goes away when you are in contact with them
⭐️ Believing this is your only chance for love
⭐️ Believing that even though you’re unhappy, you’d better not let go
⭐️ Rationalizing by saying “all couples have problems, we’re no different.”
If this is you, here’s what to do:
❤️ Wear your heart on your sleeve - effective communication requires being genuine and completely honest about your feelings. Be emotionally brave!
❤️ Focus on your needs - Use phrases like “need, feel, and want” because they focus on what you are trying to accomplish and not on your partner’s shortcomings
❤️ Be specific - take out the guess work of your partner understanding you. Be as clear as you can
❤️ Don’t blame - never make your partner feel selfish, incompetent, or inadequate.
❤️ Be assertive and unapologetic - your needs ARE legitimate and essential for YOUR happiness
Tell us your experience in the comments. What questions do you have?