Our friends at Merriam-Webster define people pleaser as “a person who has an emotional need to please others often at the expense of his or her own needs or desires.”
The underlying urge to make others happy and to be positively regarded is quite natural. We are social beings and part of that unspoken contract is paying attention to others’ needs and feelings. Those who fall into the trap of people-pleasing tend to dive too deeply into the spirit of being in-tune with others’ needs. Somewhere along the way, people pleasers decide that everyone else’s needs are more pressing than their own. They put themselves on the back burner in their own lives, and then end up feeling resentful, dissatisfied, and depressed. Today we're discussing what it means to be a people-pleaser and how this behavior often develops.