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Attachment Theory | Which attachment style do you have?

What is attachment?

  • Attachment is how we develop close bonds with each other

  • “Lasting psychological connectedness between human beings” - John Bowlby

Attachment Styles:

  1. Secure - comfortable displaying interest and affection

  2. Anxious - need constant reassurance and affection from their partner

  3. Avoidant - independent, self-directed, and often uncomfortable with intimacy

  4. Anxious-Avoidant - afraid of intimacy and commitment and lash out emotionally when anyone tries to get close to them

Your attachment style explains:

  1. Why your close relationships have succeeded/failed

  2. Why you’re attracted to who you’re attracted to

  3. The nature of the problems in relationships that come up over and over again for you

Attachment Theory

  • Studies by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth in the 1950’s - studies established a link between early infant separations with the mother and maladjustment

  • Attachment enhances the infant’s chances of survival

  • Infants have a universal need to seek close proximity with their caregiver when under stress

  • Securely attached infants would cry when caregiver left the room; insecurely attached infants showed no outward signs of distress but heart monitors showed considerable distress

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